INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS -- WHO'S BUSINESS IS IT?
Posted by Bella at 4/9/2009 11:57 AM 
Categories: ECONOMICS, COMMITMENT, DOWN LOW MEN, RACE, SEXUALITY, LOVE, MARRIAGE, INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS
Categories: ECONOMICS, COMMITMENT, DOWN LOW MEN, RACE, SEXUALITY, LOVE, MARRIAGE, INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS
Dear Brothers & Sisters: 
Consider yourself "BLESSED", if you're marriage is really working. I'm a forty something African American woman who has never been married and from what I have seen, I haven't missed, anything! The majority of African American women that I have met throughout the years, were not always pleased with their spouses and many have even divorced.
Although, I admit that I would liked to have experienced the solemn institution of marriage, I realized at a very young age that it is not for everybody. All people regardless of their sex or race simply don't make good partners in any respect. I'm glad that I did not consider marrying some of the guys I dated because I found out later about the tremendous amount of "unnecessary baggage" that they were hiding.
The fundamental problem with our community is that our men as a whole have become accustomed to relationships in which they can "get the milk for free" without "buying the cow". Too many of us are making it so easy for them to avoid any "real" commitment. Too many of them seem to believe that they are entitled to "trophy" wives when they are far less than "trophy" men.
Don't get me wrong, I realize that all of us have issues, but some of these brothas I would not touch with a 10 foot pole. Over time, I have realized that it's not always about race and economics -- it's more about being committed to making things work when everything is not exactly going your way. Too many of us have the "my way or the highway" mentality that does not lend itself to building cooperation and trust in relationships. It does not make any sense to be involved with someone in which you have nothing more than a sexual or economic relationship because in the long run, it won't work.
If people decide to "hookup" with individuals outside of their race, that's their personal decision. Frankly, I'm much more worried about the "down low" brothas who have sex with both men and women than I am about a brotha who prefers to be with a woman outside of his race. Interracial relationships are not a danger to my health! Brothas who are not honest about their "real" sexual orientation are. Many of them live in constant denial and put African American women at risk. Sexually transmitted diseases are far more lethal than being alone!
May God Bless All of You,
Sistah Selah
Consider yourself "BLESSED", if you're marriage is really working. I'm a forty something African American woman who has never been married and from what I have seen, I haven't missed, anything! The majority of African American women that I have met throughout the years, were not always pleased with their spouses and many have even divorced.
Although, I admit that I would liked to have experienced the solemn institution of marriage, I realized at a very young age that it is not for everybody. All people regardless of their sex or race simply don't make good partners in any respect. I'm glad that I did not consider marrying some of the guys I dated because I found out later about the tremendous amount of "unnecessary baggage" that they were hiding.
The fundamental problem with our community is that our men as a whole have become accustomed to relationships in which they can "get the milk for free" without "buying the cow". Too many of us are making it so easy for them to avoid any "real" commitment. Too many of them seem to believe that they are entitled to "trophy" wives when they are far less than "trophy" men.
Don't get me wrong, I realize that all of us have issues, but some of these brothas I would not touch with a 10 foot pole. Over time, I have realized that it's not always about race and economics -- it's more about being committed to making things work when everything is not exactly going your way. Too many of us have the "my way or the highway" mentality that does not lend itself to building cooperation and trust in relationships. It does not make any sense to be involved with someone in which you have nothing more than a sexual or economic relationship because in the long run, it won't work.
If people decide to "hookup" with individuals outside of their race, that's their personal decision. Frankly, I'm much more worried about the "down low" brothas who have sex with both men and women than I am about a brotha who prefers to be with a woman outside of his race. Interracial relationships are not a danger to my health! Brothas who are not honest about their "real" sexual orientation are. Many of them live in constant denial and put African American women at risk. Sexually transmitted diseases are far more lethal than being alone!
May God Bless All of You,
Sistah Selah
When I met my real love((((((
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